Ten Sex Myths that Can Wreck your Relationship
As a practicing sex therapist I often speak with couples who are struggling to find a more satisfying sexual relationship. Sex has come to feel to them like just another household chore - or some kind of big exam they are about to flunk! Lost are feelings of relaxed, happy, playfulness.
It's All About Pleasure
Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and fun! Our bodies are exquisitely attuned to experience pleasure. Too often, mistaken beliefs about sexuality create expectations and self-judgments that prevent lovers from finding the pleasure and joy they seek.
Sexual Myths
I've listed below ten myths about sex that are common in our culture. These inaccurate ideas lead to much unhappiness and suffering. I invite you to be compassionate with yourself as you inquire into the nature of your own beliefs about sexuality.
Sex Myth #1:Sex is instinctual and should just occur naturally
Sex Myth #2: Sex = sexual intercourse.
Sex Myth #3: Orgasm is the point, isn't it?
Sex Myth #4: Lovemaking only happens when both people are in the mood.
Sex Myth #5: Talking about sex takes the romance away.
Sex Myth #6: For a good relationship you should have sex X times per week/month/year.
Sex Myth #7: It's best to find what works in sex, and stick to it.
Sex Myth #8: Sex is for the young; when you're old you get beyond it . . .
Sex Myth #9a: If my husband looks at another woman, or at porn, it means he doesn't want ME. | Sex Myth 9b: If my wife doesn't make love with me it means she's over sex.
Sex Myth #10: Giving kids too much information about sex will take away their innocence.