Sexual Myths and Your Relationship
Myth #4: Lovemaking only happens when both people are in the mood
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OK, in the beginning of a terrific relationship, both people may be in the mood most of the time! But as a long-term relationship matures, this is less likely to be the case. Add in a couple of busy careers, a child or two, and it may seem nearly impossible for the stars to align themselves in the way they once did.
Make Time for Loving
The good news is that this myth is not reality. As life becomes more busy with time demands and responsibilities, it often becomes necessary to make time for loving. This may mean scheduling time for making love. With regard to the recurring objection that "this is not romantic": is it somehow "more romantic" to hardly ever connect sexually?
When you've made time to be together, it's important not to expect that you will both be aroused and filled with desire immediately. Take time to talk about something more than what bills need to be paid, or what tomorrow's schedule looks like. Make eye contact. Remember what brought you together in the beginning.
Enjoy being in your lover's presence. The feelings of desire and arousal will come, if you make room for them.
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